Approved!!!!!!!!!!!!

Approved!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The USCIS approved my application for Tom to come here… This is one of the best days of our life; we now know soon we will be together!

The waiting game just about killed us some days but we stayed strong and always remember that we were in this together and that we have God on our side. Now starts our 2^nd stage in this process and from what I am told it goes somewhat quickly in this stage. I am hoping that he is here by Christmas time that would be the best Christmas gift ever and I would only need him as a gift on Christmas morning.

It’s really funny how things happen because just on Sunday both of us were having a really bad day, we miss each other something terrible and we both long for the day when we can finally watch a movie together or go out to dinner. I think the best part of him and I being together is going to be he nights when it’s snowing outside and we are sitting on the couch watching a movie together. That’s something we have never had before, just us alone, that’s something a lot of people take for granted but all we have is the phone and the internet.

I can finally start to plan our wedding the right way! I can actually finally picture us getting married in the near future, I can’t hardly believe it right now I feel like I am in shock. I feel like I have so much to do, and he has so much to do too. He has to get all these papers in, get police reports, and passport pictures taken… Oh my gosh this is going to be a busy next few months, but that’s okay it will be a good few months too…

I can’t even type right now I’m so excited………….

I was able to speak to his mom

Step 1 with Immigration……..

Initial Review:

During this step, USCIS initiates the background checks of the applicant/petitioner and identifies issues that may need to be addressed either during an interview or by asking the applicant/petitioner to submit additional information or documentation. USCIS reviews the applicant's/petitioner's criminal history, determines if there are national security concerns that need to be addressed, and reviews the application/petition for fraud indicators.

At this step we had to submit phone records, skype records, letters between us, pictures of us when we met in India, emails sent back and forth, g-talk conversations we had. Basically I submitted everything I could to “prove” we are a couple and that we are not scamming the system. In fact I don’t know really why I started writing this blog but I did and I even submitted this to the USCIS too.

I was told that this is the longest step of our process, and after this step it should go somewhat quickly, well as quickly as it can go. I suppose to us however long it takes, it takes really, what can we do about the time? Nothing!!!!!!

Tom gave me the best compliment today; he said I was the best fiancé ever!!! That makes me grin from ear to ear when he says things like that to me… annnndddddddd I was able to speak to his mom this past weekend, I was sooo excited that I didn’t even sleep at all on Friday night after I spoke to her! Her voice was so sweet and kind, and I can’t believe that she’s going to be my mother-in-law. I always prayed to God that I would get a nice mother-in-law and not a witch for an in-law, and my prayers were answered. It’s amazing to me how awesome God is, he knows just want we need at jus the right time in our life.

You know its so funny how Tom has told me through out our whole relationship just to wait and be patient and in time everything I want I will get. I don’t mean like getting a Mercedes Benz or a million dollars, I mean things like being accepted into his family and by his friends and stuff. Slowly but surely everything I have dreamed of is coming true…

 

I had a dream last night, and it was a scary...

I have never been more confident in “US” than now! Not that before I was not confident, I am just more confident now! Once we sent our paperwork into immigration I felt like our lives were actually going to start this year.

When I read about other people’s journeys with immigration it gives me hope, and understanding that everything is going to be all right with us. Actually I don’t much think about the process anymore like I used to, I found “thinking” about it made the days go by slower and slower. I am 100% confident in our relationship, I know we are going to make it, so why fret and think about it all the time when there is nothing I can do about the waiting list we are on.

Just yesterday Tom called and we chatted for about 15 minutes or so and he asked me who do I love him so much? Why do I stay with him through everything we have been through? I told him I couldn’t answer that question with words! There are no words to describe how much I love him; I just love him, end of the store. Its like trying to tell a blind person what the color blue looks like, you cant tell them what it looks like, because they are blind! My love for Tom is the same way, I can’t tell him how much I love him because words are not enough to express my love for him. 

I had a dream last night, and it was a scary dream too me. My dream took place in like WW2 time and some people and I were on a mountaintop and we had to jump down the mountain with a rope. When the rope got to a certain point the people at the top let the rope go and you died. I was allowed to call Tom and our children before I had to jump, and I remember what I said to our children on the phone, I said: don’t worry guys mommy loves you, and your daddy is going to take great care of you! I told Tom I loved him and I would see him in heaven soon!

Then I woke up and I was crying and I just had to call Tom and hear his voice right then and there… I didn’t tell him about my dream because he was headed to the bus station, but he said to me “are you okay babe” and I told him I was fine and then we said good-bye. The sound of his voice made me feel safe again and I was able to fall back asleep for a while, as it was something like 5am and I had to wake up for work at 6:30am.

Its little things like that, that make me know we are made for each other, the simple sound of Toms voice soothed me so much and made me feel safe when I was so upset.  He is the first person I want to run to when I am upset because he makes me feel safe, even if he cant hug me or hold me right then he can still make me feel safe. There was not a time when we were together in India when I didn’t feel like he would protect me; he never left my side even for a minute.

India could have been a very overwhelming time for me, but Tom made it feel like a piece of cake, even when I was not with him, he still made me feel secure. He reminded me that God would protect me, and keep me safe in his arms. I love him so much and I cant wait for the time when we are together forever….

He is a man of his word...

Nothing is easy in this immigration process, but I am sure by the time we get done with this I could help anyone with this process. I have to say I do amaze myself some days with how much I have learned about the Internet in the past year in a half, and Tom is very good at explaining things to me too, that helps as well.

So I am told that the step we are in right now is the longest step of this process, we are in the “initial step”, but getting all the paperwork together for this step was a bit overwhelming in the beginning. Once everything got submitted in I felt relieved that this step was over, but right behind that step comes the next step. We are now getting together police reports from everywhere Tom has lived since he was 16, but lucky for us he just has to get 1 for the UK and not 1 for every different apartment/city he has lived in or anything like that. Then we have to get a few police reports from India, but that will not be a big deal I don’t think, not as big of a deal as the UK.

I find myself being a bit more calm these past few months than I have ever been before really, and its a lot because of Tom. He makes me feel like everything is going to be fine, God is on our side, and soon we will be together. There are some days when I feel like he is already here and Im just at home waiting for him to get home from work. I know that sounds silly, but he is such a huge part of everything I do that sometimes it feels like he has been here all along.

The other day I was at home and I was having such a horrible day that all I could do was put my back up against my kitchen wall, slide down the wall to the floor, and cry. I can say I haven’t cried like that in a very long time and all I wanted to do was speak to Tom and have him hold me in his arms and tell me everything was going to be fine babe… So I sent him a text and instantly I felt better and as soon as he woke up he called me and then I was fine. I just needed to hear his voice to make me feel better! 

There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him, or about India, and how much fun we had there. Those are the things that keep me going everyday, the memories of us together in India. He said the other day to me even if we don’t speak everyday or every week or whatever my love for you will never change!! I truly with all my hear believe that because he is a man of his word, and I know he truly loves me…

I try to keep doing things at our house to make the time go by faster and to not think about the process as much. I am getting a new laundry room floor put in before he gets here, painting the front porch, planting grass seed, and just general cleaning up of the house before he gets here. I want him to feel like it’s his house as much as its my house, after all in my eyes it is his house too.