Paperwork paperwork paperwork

Tom always says that its my right to call him as much as I want, and trust me ladies I’m probably a freak when it comes to calling him. But the time difference is so big that I only get to speak to him from about 6am till around 2pm on a good day. That’s only on average 7 to 8 hours in a 24 hour period I get to talk to my fiance. But our lawyer told us the other day that we don’t speak enough??? Really??? I beg to differ with you on this one lady!!! In a 8 hour time period we probably speak something like 1 hour of that, and that does not include texting, emailing, skyping, and instant messaging online. She pointed out to me that we have a 15 or 16 hour gap where we don’t speak at all.

Now I know I am not some hot shot lawyer, and I didn’t got to college for a million years or anything like that, but I do have common sense. Now lets think about this for a minute, I sleep for 8 hours, He sleeps for 8 hours and then as stated above we chat, text, IM, email or speak on the phone for about 8 hours a day. So 8+8+8= 24 right??? I’m just saying if we both lived in the states it would be different we could talk for 16 hours a day, but.... we don’t!!

My advice to anyone who is doing a long distance relationship with someone in another country is to keep very very good records of your communication. If you even think that one day you could see yourself marrying this guy/girl KEEP RECORDS PLEASE. From day 1 of our relationship in the back of my head I was always saying “did you print out your phone records this month Rach? Did you save all the emails he sent you?” I’m not really sure why I did that in the beginning but we did decide fairly quickly that we were going to get married so maybe I just always knew we would get married or something like that, I don’t know. But when I went into the lawyers office for the first time and had all of our phone records, skype records, and emails with me she was pretty impressed with me, not to toot my own horn or anything ;) …

READ.... READ.... READ... Read up on all of your immigration laws where ever you are from. I made sure when I walked into the lawyers office I could almost do her job for her. I guess I didn’t really have to get a lawyer, but one little mistake on the paperwork and that could set you back months and months. I was told by many people that it also looks more legit if you have a lawyer than if you don’t, but I don’t really believe that 100% . I don’t really think immigration looks at rather you have a lawyer or not I think they look at the facts that are presented to them more, but I could be wrong also.

In the US we don’t have to do as much as the person coming to the US, we have to submit some paperwork and get some dumb official things together and make sure the payment is paid in full. The other person has to do a physical with a doctor that immigration recommends, get police reports for everywhere they have lived since they were 16 years old, go do an interview with immigration in there district. They will receive a huge packet of things they will have to do, even before immigration will look at your case.

Now if you have a fiance like I do, and I love him to death don’t get me wrong, but he is on the ummm lets say he likes to press the time to the very last second to do things. He's a guy and I know how they are (some of them not all of them) they like to take there time doing things. But he knows when I say “I have given you 6 weeks to do this and I need it done TOMORROW!!!” he usually gets it done then for me. So on one hand I am a pain in his butt, and on the other hand I’m really just trying to get things done in a timely fashion. You see I can see us in 5 years, where we are going to live, how many kids we will have, even the kids names. He on the other hand has no idea what he is going to eat for dinner, that’s why we are so good together really, he pulls me back to “today” and I make him think about “tomorrow”.

So you see if God wanted us all the same then our relationship would either ALWAYS be living for tomorrow, or ALWAYS stuck just chillin out watching movies. So he gave me to Tom to chill me out and make me relax a bit and he gave Tom to me to get him to think about the future a bit more. We are great together in my eyes, and after all God does not make mistakes right?